One of the problems with writing in forums is that people can't see your face! That's one reason why we have smileys.
Re-reading some of my posts, I can see, although saying them with a
twinkle, and a certain warped (sorry, but that's me, I'm afraid) sense of humour, I can see how perhaps they could upset someone, especially if they're under extra stress (if that applied to you, Zoe; then I am sorry, no offence was intended).
Also, we don't necessarily know who the person is, making remarks. For example, Tinker (I too apologise for adding the S to your name, a la
Five Run Away Together, but again, it seemed quite funny to me at the time, and I didn't consider it name-calling), for all I/we know, you could be a boy of 8 or an elderly gent of 70. Not knowing where your lighthouse is, you could be in Bombay, Los Angeles, Baghdad or Timbuctoo!
Ming says she is in Bangladesh....but who knows.......that is the mystery of the internet.
Anyway, so glad we've all made up.
Ginger-Beer anyone?